MY OWN THOUGHTS – I AM ME
Blossom Furtado
I have sometimes wondered and this has been often, if what I thought, felt and did now were appropriate. This set me off on a round of introspection and I found that over the years I have metamorphisized through the following stages:
- As a Child – From a Clear
Fun loving, rebellious, caring, talkative, responsible individual
- As a Young Adult – To a Clear
Pleasing, scared, sensitive, insecure, blunt, sympathetic, and non communicative individual
- As an Adult – To a Clear
Focused, Determined, Passionate, Secure, Confident, Empathetic,
Fully Expressed, Effective and Productive individual
Clarity has always been my main strength – I always knew what I wanted – what I lacked was the courage and skill to execute those ideas and no one understood. So I followed my own “Path” and through trial and error have discovered “parts” of me that I did not know existed and even today I am still “learning” and “discovering” myself.
I repeatedly ask myself – Is it okay to still keep learning and discovering? Discarding and changing? Improving and expanding? And then I came across this beautiful piece that was written by Virginia Satir, Author and Psychotherapist and also referred to as the “Mother of Family Therapy”.
Virginia Satir was one of the most influential modern psychotherapists and a founder of family therapy. She felt that many of us are afraid to communicate to others our true feelings. She believed and taught that we have internalized “rules” for social behavior that limit our communication.
I now realize that it is okay to explore and discover new parts of self, and it is okay to discard the old that do not serve self in the here and now and it is okay to keep on moving forward with an attitude of gratitude and unconditional love and forgiveness. Improvement is always possible.
Here is her “I am Me”.
I AM ME
In all the world there is no one else exactly like Me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically Mine, because I alone choose it. I own everything about Me – my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own all my triumphs and successes all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts.
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me.
If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turned out to be unfitting, I can discard that which I feel is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.
I am me and I am okay
Virginia Satir
Author and Psychotherapist
Mother of Family Therapy”
26 June 1916 – 10 September 1988
I too can see, hear, feel, think, say, do and know and have the tools to engineer me as I own me – I am me and I am okay. There must be many of you out there in the world wondering, thinking and feeling the same way and to all of you – “You are You” and “You are okay”. Keep exploring, discarding, transforming and discovering on this “Journey through Life”.
Love and Light
Blossom Furtado
27 November 2013